“No experimental methodology has ever succeeded and will never succeed in returning the essence of the soul, nor even in giving a sufficiently faithful representation of its complex manifestations.” (Jung)
This warning concerning, among others, the original AEC DISC©® Method. Find below some key points general in adhesion with this quote:
- We do not see the world as it is, but as we are: “If you are pained by any external thing, it is not this thing that disturbs you, but your own judgment about it”(Epictetus)
- We cannot motivate a person according to our own motivations, but only about its own motivations
- Everyone is motivated, but for reasons that are unique to him/her and that are not necessarily ours.
- Let’s treat others, not as we like to be treated, but as they need to be treated.
- Everyone always does the best they can, as they are at a given moment.
- If someone is told something that is believed to be the truth but that he cannot hear, it’s like lying to him. As Raymond Devos says, “It is always wrong to want to be right with someone who has every reason to believe that they are not wrong. “
- Accept that the person concerned may not agree. A “yes” has value only if the “no” is possible and accepted as such with respect for the person.
- Do not try to change others, their spouses take care of it!
- “Reality always has two opposite and complementary sides.” (Jung)
Wanting only one of the two faces without the other is like wanting a piece of wood with only one end.
As Raymond Devos also says, one should not say “a piece of wood” (in French: “un bout de bois”) but “the two ends of a wood” (in French: “les deux bouts d’un morceau de bois”) because there are always two ends to a piece of wood. But the trouble is that it does not sound good.
- We are all ambivalent, both extraordinary and miserable.
- An accomplished human being is one who has learned patience to reconcile with what he is not able to change, develop the strength to change what he cannot change, and the wisdom to distinguish one from another (cf. Marcus Aurelius)
- The universe is made of change:
- in time because there are not two identical things, situations or people at two different moments. Only change does not change. “No man ever steps in the same river twice” (Heraclitus),
- in space because there are not two identical things, situations or people at the same time. The other is different.
“It is the act of an ill-instructed man to blame others for his own bad condition; it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed, to lay the blame on himself; and of one whose instruction is completed, neither to blame another, nor himself.” (Epictetus)
- The wisdom of the manager is:
- to be in agreement with what includes “me, others and the situation”,
- understanding and respecting the difference of others,
- distinguishing the individual from his function,
- taking into account that we are here (and not elsewhere)
- taking into account that we are now (and neither in the past that no longer exists nor in the future that does not yet exist),
- taking into account that we are in a permanent change,
- in the management of complexity, uncertainty and relativity while the human tendency is to seek simplicity, security and absolutization.